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20 Things I’d Do Over in Raising Girls

July 21, 2014 by Leave a Comment

I often share my testimony with women about my almost-near disastrous relationship with my only daughter. Five years ago I made hard decisions to change my lifestyle and behavior so I could salvage our relationship when she was a teen. She’s a recent college graduate whose heart and desire is for the Lord. God has worked His grace and power in our home and family.

 

I’ve shared a lot of things with moms of girls over the years – young moms exasperated with small kids, moms raising preteens fearful of the path their daughter might take, and moms in the trenches with teen girls. Here are twenty things I often share that I’m glad I did in raising a girl, and twenty things I would do over.

 

20 Things I’d Do Again

 

  1. Be a stay at home mom to watch her grow

  2. Have tea parties

  3. Play dress ups

  4. Read books to her

  5. Take her to parks

  6. Sing to her

  7. Have play dates

  8. Lay beside her bed and pray for her when she’s sleeping

  9. Take her to museums

  10. Take her on a road trip

  11. Be honest about my life when she asked hard questions

  12. Have her dad intervene when she wouldn’t listen to me

  13. Have her dad date her when other girls had boyfriends

  14. Tell her dad what girls need to hear

  15. Write her notes when she wouldn’t listen to me

  16. Make time for her even when exhausted

  17. Talk to her about sex at age-appropriate levels

  18. Stay up late when she wanted to talk

  19. Stand firmly even when it hurt

  20. Hold her loosely
     

20 Things I Would Do Over

 

  1. Trusted God earlier

  2. Trusted God more often

  3. Walked away more

  4. Let her and her brothers work things out more often

  5. Given her space when she demanded it

  6. Realized some things are just that way, and it’s okay

  7. Bit my tongue more

  8. Realized earlier in her life that she’s not me

  9. listened more

  10. lectured less

  11. prayed more

  12. Practiced more patience

  13. Told her I was proud of her

  14. Given up my rights to have the last word

  15. Appreciated her more

  16. Encouraged her more

  17. Shown her unconditional respect

  18. Given more grace

  19. Hugged her more

  20. Held her just one more time
     

We all have things we wish we could do over. Having a relationship with Jesus Christ makes do overs possible no matter what stage of parenting we’re in. His power also provides wisdom for things we happen to get right.

 

Somewhere between tea parties and tiaras, little girls grow up. What are things you’ve learned in raising girls, no matter their age? What are things you’re glad that you’ve done? What would you do over in raising girls?

 

Broken and Beautiful: Brenda has a Master’s Degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling, and a BA in Education. As a Parent, Counselor and Educator her ministry is helping moms and daughters navigate the tough stuff of life. Have a question for Brenda? Email her at AskBrenda@thewhatvergirls.com

 

 

 

 

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