Dads who invest in their daughters’ lives are building relationship equity. The more deposits they make, the more equity they build up. The more equity they build up, the more credibility they have with their daughters.
My husband tries to take Grace on regular father daughter dates. Each day Roger invests in Grace’s life by spending time with her by either talking or goofing off together. By doing this, Roger is building equity (trust, security, love deposits, respect, etc.…) in his relationship with Grace.
Grace often seeks Roger’s council and respects his opinion on many topics. Including guys. One of the many things I love most about their relationship is that they talk about everything.
Simple Everyday Ways Dads Can Invest in Their Daughters Lives
Talk to her. But more importantly, listen
Help her with her homework
Ask her questions about her day, her friends, her sports, and her dreams
5 Father Daughter Dates
Go to the movies (take turns choosing the movie)
Go out to dinner (take turns choosing the restaurant)
Go for a walk/run
Nerf sword fight (this is a favorite in our home)
What about the single moms or daughters with “absent” fathers?
Some of you reading this might be a single mom, or your husband has never been intentional about his relationship with his daughter and you don’t think he’ll start now, or you don’t think your daughter would be interested in spending time like this with her dad.
My advice to the single moms is to look to the men in your lives and see if any would be willing to spend some quality time with your daughter like an uncle or grandpa. Or, maybe she can go along on a father daughter date with a friend and her dad. (Obviously in this day and age we have to be especially cautious about who we allow to influence and spend time with our children.
If your husband has never been intentional about spending time with your daughter, encourage him to start. Whether they admit it or not, girls do want their father’s attention.
If you simply don’t have a father figure for your daughter to spend time with, all is not lost. As her mother you also have a great deal of influence on her life. God will equip you to speak truth and love into her life.
I’d LOVE to hear from YOU. What father daughter date ideas do you have?