By RhemaI have so many friends. So many amazing people in my life that I would never be able to count how many of them I have. I go to a big school and a big church that are both FILLED with people. However, there are often a lot of times that I feel like I am all alone even though I am surrounded by people. I feel lonely and isolated. It can feel like I am the only person that feels like this. I am a deep thinker, so when I feel lonely, I think about it constantly. It makes me think that I am the only person in the universe. It can definitely be easy to fall into the mindset and believe the lie that we are lonely. But, that is not true. And sometimes it takes surrounding ourselves in the truth to find out the lies that we believe.
Last year I felt very lonely. It was my first year of middle school, and it was a big change coming from elementary school. But, I had a lot of friends from my elementary school so I figured that it would be an easy transition. We all ate lunch together, hung out together, and went to our classes together. It was nice to have some familiarity in my life after everything else in school was new. Lunch was great. It was now 30 minutes instead of 15 minutes, and it was the only social time that I got with my friends, and I loved it so much. It was great to get to connect with them. However, I often felt alone, even though I was in a huge school with lots of people.
When you feel lonely, it is very easy to believe you are all alone. However, it is in situations like this that we need to act different than we feel. The devil will try to lie to us and make us believe the things that he says about us. We need to rebuke these lies, and we have the power to do that because the Holy Spirit lives in us! It’s not just you that feels lonely, everybody does. But we can’t stay in a place like that. We need to do practical things so that we don’t feel lonely, like step outside our comfort zone and meet new friends and join in activities at school and church. Some other practical things that I do when I feel lonely is: I hang out around others, I choose a physically active activity, I read, and I talk to God. I also turn on worship music and worship Him.
I encourage you to make a list of fun things that you enjoy doing. Then, when you feel lonely, you can do those activities! The biggest issue is that we need to deal with the devil and his lies. He will lie to us so that we feel isolated. We can combat his lies with the Word of God: I am a child of God, I am a friend of Jesus, I am accepted, I have been set free in Christ, I am a citizen of Heaven, the peace of God guards my heart and mind, God supplies all my needs, I have been made complete in Christ, and God loves me and has chosen me. This is the truth that we can fight loneliness with.
“The joy we feel has little to do with the circumstances of our lives and everything to do with the focus of our lives.” ~Russel M. Nelson
Rhema is an 8th grader in Spokane. She is on ASB at school and knows her mission at school is to be a light in the darkness and to influence students and staff for Jesus at her middle school while she is there for two years. Outside of school she dances tap, hip hop, lyrical and jazz. She loves little people and helps in children’s ministry at her church and helps teach dance to 4 year olds at her dance school. She is actively involved at her youth group and loves helping new people feel at home at church. She has a heart to make sure others feel included and never excluded.