She’s On Something!

Her eyes are glossy. Or is that a twinkle?

Giggling, she can’t keep quiet. Gushing all of the great things about him, all conversations now lead to this one subject. If she were back in her light up shoes, the strobe light would be blinding as she twitters around your home. It’s like she’s on something.

And she is. It’s infatuation.

Although it’s not deadly or illegal, it does give this mama heart cause for concern. It’s a drug that can blind our girl, causing her to miss what is glaring to everyone but her.

We can prepare our kids to be willing to see the truth, the whole truth, about a potential date before they date. The time for them to be objective is before they’ve been star struck.

When the intoxication of infatuation comes around, we don’t want our kids to shut their eyes to obvious flaws, saying, “he’ll change. Many marriages have begun and failed hanging on this one hope. For this reason my husband has often taught our kids: “What you see is what you’ll get”.

Whatever you see in the guy or girl you are interested in, you will likely see more of that trait in the future.

While it is true that people change, especially those who are sincerely following Christ, as a general rule the character you see is the same character that will continue.

Look for easy examples to share with your girl:

Does he come to the door to pick you up, open your car door or allow you to go first into a building? The manners he shows in the beginning are usually the best manners you’ll see.

Does he have a job, get good grades or give his best to his sport? The work ethic you see today will be the work ethic that will shine tomorrow…good or bad.

Is he a man of his word? If he says he will do something, does he follow through?

How does he treat his parents; especially his mom? The respect he has for her will be the respect he has for you.

While we don’t want our kids to over analyze every move a potential date makes, we do want them to go into a potential relationship with their eyes open and not be blinded by a starry eyed crush.

Lynn Cowell is a Proverbs 31 speaker and the author of several books including Magnetic: Becoming the Girl He Wants.