So you’ve got kids that are dating, or will be before you wish they would. Just the word “dating” brings back so many memories. Like the time you thought you had a date to prom; until he found someone “better” or when your best friend told that guy in lunch block you were crushing on him…and it crushed you because he wasn’t crushing back.
To be honest, it isn’t rejection that scares me when it comes to my kids and dating. It’s more the Doctor Jekell and Mr. Hyde thing. My concern is they will feel pressure to become someone they are not, all for the look they’re dying to get. The attention they want desperately to have.
And so, I did what any normal mom would do. I wrote a book. (Ok – maybe that is not so normal, but you’ve got to work with what God gave you and God gave me words).
While writing this book, this book called Magnetic: Becoming the Girl He Wants, I interviewed guys (because the book is for girls). Lots of them. Guys who were in middle school, high school, college and newly married. I asked them questions:
What are you looking for in a girl?
What do you find unattractive in a girl?
What do you think of girl drama?
I asked these questions because these are the types of questions girls ask me in our Q&A time at my events. Girls want to know.
I found many guys don’t want a girl to change. As in become someone she is not. Instead, these guys help me to share with girls, through words and video, that often what I call the “captivating characteristics” and what the Bible calls the fruit of the Spirit is exactly what attracts godly guys to godly girls. Traits like love, joy and peace – something a bit lacking these days.
So, when a girl focuses on becoming the girl He wants – the girl God created to reach her fullest potential in Him – that can be very attractive to a godly guy. It’s like a two-for-one deal!
Today, I’d like to share with you a free resource – the video “What a Guy Wants” as well as the free discussion questions. Take a night this week and make it a girl’s night – you and your girl. Add a few of her friends too. Watch the video and talk about guys. Help your girl take one step closer to becoming the girl He wants. (Not the guy in the video, but the guy named Jesus).
ABOUT THE BOOK
Packed with revealing quizzes, interviews with guys, and practical tools, Magnetic empowers you to:
o Move beyond negative thoughts, capricious emotions, and others’ opinions as you gain unshakeable confidence
o Limit the draining affect of “girl drama” so you can invest your time in becoming the best you.
o Replace the agonizing frustration of wanting to be noticed and liked with a deep assurance that you already are.
As you live out nine amazing characteristics—known as the fruit of the Spirit—you will not only cultivate an inner and outer beauty, but you will also hold an irresistible appeal for godly guys. Shift your focus from a guy to the Guy and become the magnetic young woman God created you to be.
Need a tool to help your daughter learn to wait on God? Check out Lynn’s newest release: Magnetic: Becoming the Girl He Wants. Connect with Lynn more on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter at Lynn Cowell.