When homecoming and prom invitations have become as elaborate as marriage proposals, and all eyes are on you, you need to know that you still owe him nothing.
He may have just asked you to homecoming or prom in front of your entire math class with a dozen roses, balloons, and a teddy bear, but you still owe him nothing.
He may have just spent a fortune on a dance ticket, flowers, dinner, and pictures, but you still owe him nothing.
He may have been your boyfriend for months, and you hope to marry him some day, but you still owe him nothing.
Girls, you do not have to say “yes” when every part of you wants to say “no”, or even a small part of you wants to say “no”. It doesn’t matter how many people are watching, or what you think will happen to your reputation if you say “no”.
Let me be clear. When a guy decides that he is going to ask a girl on a date, he knows there is a chance that he’s going to get rejected. He chooses to put himself out there, whether publicly, or privately, and it is not your responsibility to protect his ego. Your responsibility is to choose God’s best for your life. Sometimes that even means saying “no” when you want to say “yes”.
The right guy wants what’s best for you. Even if that means he doesn’t get what he wants. The right guy will protect you from situations where your values could be compromised, and he points you closer to God, not further away.
So how do you say “no”? It’s easy. You politely say: “No, thank you”. That’s it. Say anything else, and you’ll have dug yourself into a hole.
We live in a world where we go to great lengths to spare everyone’s feelings at the expense of our own integrity and comfort. Don’t go there, it leads you down a road called “approval addiction” and the farther you travel down it, the harder it is to find your way back.